“I simply panic at the idea of going to a social event without makeup where there will be straight men, but it’s like I don’t trust them, I expect them to be unkind,” …during the summer I don’t do water activities. I don’t swim, I don’t jet ski, I don’t kayak, but I would love to join on all of these things.”
“The beauty of a woman is not in the clothes she wears, the figure that she carries, or the way she combs her hair. The beauty of a woman must be seen in her eyes because that is the doorway to her heart, the place where love resides. The beauty of a woman is not in a facial mole, but true beauty in a woman is reflected in her soul. It is the caring that she lovingly gives, the passion that she shows, and the beauty of a woman, with passing years, only grows!” – Audrey Hepburn
I think makeup is a wonderful thing but I also think it can be seriously overused and misused. We all have flaws – it’s what makes us human. Instead of hiding every flaw, why not let them show? The more you show off the things you aren’t confident about, the more confident you will become about those things. Sound confusing? It’s not.
Here are some of my personal tips on how to be more confident without (or with little) makeup:
1.) Acknowledge and -embrace- your insecurities:
We all have insecurities. There is no denying that. There is also no shame in being insecure as long as you can acknowledge that you are insecure about something and try to change the way you view that insecurity. For example: I used to be severely insecure about my freckles. Since I was younger, no matter how much sun screen I put on my skin, I would develop freckles within ten minutes of being in the sun. I used to think they were awful until I started to look at them differently. I dated someone once who was obsessed with freckles and would frequently take photographs of mine and others freckles and I started to notice the beauty and uniqueness in them. I now not only accept my freckles but I try my hardest not to cover them up anymore. I also have dark circles which I can’t say I am proud of but I can say I am not nearly as insecure about them anymore and I don’t freak out if I go outside or take photographs without covering the darkness with concealer. I also have redness around my nose (thanks allergies) and I used to always put concealer to cover up the redness and now I let my skin breathe more and I let those flaws shine through.The more you let your flaws make you unique, the more you will come to appreciate those things that make you who you are.
“What you do, the way you think, makes you beautiful.”– Scott Westerfield
2.) Take care of your skin:
Our skin is our biggest organ, take care of it! So many of us are focused on what we put IN our bodies but neglect what we put ON our bodies. What we put on our skin is ultimately absorbed into our bloodstream so you want to make sure to use the safest and cleanest ingredients as possible. I also say that a little bit goes a long way. You don’t need to have five or ten products in order to have a good skincare regimen or to take care of your skin. As long as you are using common sense when it comes to your skin and taking care of it, you will see results. Think simplicity when it comes to the ingredients you look out for and the routine you develop. When your skin looks better, you will feel more confident without wearing makeup and if you do decide to wear makeup, it will look even better on well treated skin!
3.) A little goes a long way:
You will be surprised at what a few simple things like curling your lashes and grooming your brows will do for your face and features. Add a little tinted moisturizer and lip balm and you will be ready to go. I suggest trying out tinted moisturizer if you are someone who is used to wearing heavy foundation. I also suggest tinted lip balms and investing in a good eyelash curler and brow set! If you are going to wear makeup, focus on enhancing your features instead of covering them. Dab a little cream blush on the apples of your cheeks or swipe some light bronzer to accentuate the cheek bones. The focus should be on enhancing, not covering.
4.) Positive Affirmations:
I have talked about how important it is to be positive and to use mantras and affirmations both here andhere. Something as seemingly simple as telling yourself that you are beautiful and worthy can be more helpful than you realize. When you use positive affirmations on a regular basis you will start to see results in your confidence level and over all being. Whenever you feel like something about your physical appearance isn’t what you consider to be “beautiful” or “right” – just tell yourself something that you do love about yourself and take it from there. For however many bad things you can think about yourself, I promise you there are more good, you just have to dig a little deeper to recognize them sometimes!
“Everything has beauty, but not everyone sees it.”― Confucius